Most people would define optimism as being endlessly happy, with a glass that's perpetually half full.
But that's exactly the kind of false cheerfulness that positive psychologists wouldn't recommend.
Healthy optimism means being in touch with reality, realistic optimists are those who make the best of things that happen, but not those who believe everything happens for the best.
A professor uses three optimistic exercises. When he feels down, after giving a bad lecture, he grants himself permission to be human.
He reminds himself that not every lecture can be a Nobel winner; some will be less effective than others.
Next is reconstruction. He ***yzes the weak lecture, learning lessons for the future about what works and what doesn't.
Finally, there is perspective, which involves acknowledging that in the grand scheme of life, one lecture really doesn't matter.
大多数人会把乐观定义为无尽的快乐，乐观的人总能看到杯子还装着半杯水。
但这正是积极心理学家并不会推荐的一种虚假快乐。
健康的乐观主义意味着要贴近现实，切合实际。现实的乐观主义者会充分利用所发生的一切，把事情做得最好，而不是相信每件事都会顺利。
一位教授常常会使用让人变得乐观的三步练习法。当他在一次糟糕的演讲后感到沮丧时，他会先宽慰自己，这是人之常情。
他提醒自己，不是每一场演讲都能有获诺贝尔奖的水准; 有些演讲效果会不如其他演讲的。
下一步是回顾。他会分析这篇演讲的不足之处，为以后从中汲取有用的经验和失败的教训，知道哪些是可行的，哪些是不可行的。
最后，要拥有这样一种观念，即承认在人生的宏伟蓝图计划中，一次演讲真的微不足道。
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我读英语（2022/12/21）
“I have been silly,” she said to him, at last. “I ask your forgiveness. Try to be happy...” He was surprised by this absence of reproaches. He stood there all bewildered, the glass globe held arrested in mid-air. He did not understand this quiet sweetness.
“Of course I love you,” the flower said to him. “It is my fault that you have not known it all the while. That is of no importance. But you—you have been just as foolish as I. Try to be happy... Let the glass globe be. I don’t want it any more.”
“But the wind…”
“My cold is not so bad as all that... The cool night air will do me good. I am a flower.”
“But the animals…”
“Well, I must endure the presence of two or three caterpillars if I wish to become acquainted with the butterflies. It seems that they are very beautiful. And if not the butterflies—and the caterpillars—who will call upon me? You will be far away... As for the large animals—I am not at all afraid of any of them. I have my claws.”
And, naively, she showed her four thorns. Then she added:
“Don’t linger like this. You have decided to go away. Now go!”
For she did not want him to see her crying. She was such a proud flower...
caterpillars [ˈkætəpɪləz]n.毛毛虫（caterpillar 的复数）
例句:Caterpillars change into butterflies.
毛虫变成蝴蝶。
“我以前太傻了，”她终于开口了，“希望你能原谅我。祝你幸福。”
花朵并没有责怪他，这让小王子很意外。他呆呆地站在那儿，手里举着玻璃罩，不知如何是好。他无法理解这种静静的甜蜜。
“我当然是很爱你的，”花朵对他说，“可一直以来，都没有让你知道。这是我的错，不过这已经不重要了。不过你啊，也和我一样傻。祝你幸福……把玻璃罩也拿走吧。我不需要它了。”
“但是风——”
“其实我的感冒没那么严重……夜晚的凉风对我是有益的。我可是一朵花。”
“但是动物——”
“如果能认识蝴蝶，我愿意忍受两三条毛毛虫。我听说蝴蝶很漂亮。除了蝴蝶和毛毛虫，也不会有其他动物来拜访我了吧？你就要离开了……至于大型动物，我一点也不怕它们。我也有爪子！”
而且，她天真地向他展示了她的四根刺。
然后她补充说：
“不要再磨蹭了。你已经决定要走了，走吧。”
因为她不想让小王子看到她流泪。她真是一朵骄傲的花啊……
今日生词
✔️woo [wuː]
Definition: to try to get the support of ***; to try to persuade a woman to love him and marry him
Sentence: To woo the voters before an election
在选举之前争取选民的支持
Young people should bravely woo love. Love is happy and saline.
青年男女应大胆追求爱情，爱是幸福的，又是苦涩的。
✔️saline [ˈseɪliːn]
Definition: containing salt;
Sentence: Wash the lenses in saline solution.
用盐溶液清洗镜片。
to measure the salinity of the water
测量水的盐份
✔️ incandescent [ˌɪnkænˈdesnt]
Definition: giving out light when heated； very bright
Sentence: incandescent white
刺眼的白色
incandescent lamps
白炽灯
✔️furnace [ˈfɜːrnɪs]
Definition: a space surrounded on all sides by walls and a roof for heating metal or glass to very high temperatures
Sentence : It's like a furnace (= very hot) in here!
这里热得像火炉！
✔️tournament [ˈtʊrnəmənt]
Definition: a sports competition involving a number of teams or players who take part in different games and must leave the competition if they lose. The competition continues until there is only the winner left.
Sentence: The BBC will cover all the major games of the tournament.
英国广播公司将报道这次锦标赛的所有重要赛事
✔️elixir [ɪˈlɪksər
Definition: a magic liquid that is believed to cure illnesses or to make people live for ever
Sentence: the elixir of younth 长生不老药
✔️devout [dɪˈvaʊt]
Definition: believing strongly in a particular religion and obeying its laws and practices
Sentence: She devoutly (= very strongly) hoped he was telling the truth.
她诚挚地希望他讲的是实情。
She was a devout Christian...
她是一个虔诚的基督徒。
✔️inculcate [ɪnˈkʌlkeɪt]
Definition: to cause *** to learn and remember ideas, moral principles, etc., especially by repeating them often
Sentence: to inculcate a sense of responsibility in ***
谆谆教导某人要有责任感
We have tried to inculcate a feeling of citizenship in youngsters...
我们试图向年轻人灌输公民意识。
#每天打卡背单词# #英语# #英语思维# #单词#
没有了十几二十几岁的热情和鲁莽
30岁的我多了份沉稳与自信
奔三的路上我一直很焦虑 担心青春不再
但真的到了这个年纪我发现
作为女孩子
每个阶段都能够得到一个不同的自己
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很多人可能觉得女孩子的归宿就是结婚生子
虽然我的婚姻生活很幸福 也给了我很多能量
但我认为女生的归宿不止于此
内心的平静与坦然才让我真正找到了归宿
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我是如何找到归宿的？
1、不再怕得罪别人
2、不再那么看重友情，即使以前是很好的闺蜜，婚后产后都有自己的生活，不过多打扰
3、不再玻璃心 不管是朋友还是同事之间说了什么做了什么，我都不再玻璃心揣测别人的想法
4、保持身材 不能让自己胖起来，青春可以不再，但气质不能丢
5、接受自己的不完美 世上本就没有完美的人
6、不再过度虚荣 允许自己小小的虚荣心，但不再像以前一样攀比了
7、接受自己的平庸
At the age of 30, I am more calm and confident. On my way to my thirties, I have been very anxious and worried that I am no longer young. But really, at this age, I find As a girl Each stage can get a different self. - Many people may think that the destination of girls is to get married and have children. Although my married life is very happy, it also gives me a lot of energy. But I think there's more to girls than that. Inner peace and calm let me really find a home. - How did I find a home?1, no longer afraid of offending others 2, no longer so important friendship, even if used to be a very good girlfriend, after marriage and postpartum have their own lives, but more disturbing. 3, no longer a glass heart, no matter what friends or colleagues say or do, I no longer a glass heart to guess what others think. 4. Keeping fit can't make you fat. Youth can be lost, but temperament can't be lost. 5. Accept your imperfections there is no such thing as a perfect person. 6, no more excessive vanity, allow yourself a little vanity, but no longer compare as before. 7. Accept your mediocrity
气质是装不出来的2
所以说，装大格局不行，要练；装斯文不行，要读书；装多情不行，要花钱；只有一种，装认真工作可以骗过有些领导，但是最后也害了这个领导害了公司，对于公司来说，如果大家都在装着很努力工作这个公司就危险了，如果某些人装着很努力工作并且上位了，这个公司快危险了。
装是不行的，得练，得有钱，得诚实，得实实在在地工作。
Temperament can not be installed
At the meeting today, a person reported a defective product to the minister. The report told me, cut it and take me with a magnifying glass.
My first reaction was that I took pictures. How did I have to cut it, too?But I did not say it, because after all, there are others, so too do not to give the minister face, not very good.It was not very happy, just did not speak, took the sample over.
王博的故事连续篇之九 ——东边日出西边雨，道是无晴却有晴
9.Leave for happiness 向幸福出发
话说王博是山东郎，
Energetic,tall又strong，
性格shy，好红脸庞
Especiallymeet好姑娘
cousin李刚一说教，
王博seem开了窍
Ha ha ha ha ha
After meeting Elizabeth at lunch time, he was so excited that he sang and jumped allthe way. He even didn't notice the pool nearby and nearly fell into it. " You aren't similar to Li Gang.You don't take after him. You are helpful and generous.I am proud of you.I can depend on you."(A FRIEND IN NED IS A FRIEND INDEED，thinking and smiling from ear to ear.)
L：Hey, Wang Bo.Why are you so happy? You are nearly knocking into the tree.
W: Elizabeth and I talked about the Volunteer project. Both of you must take part in the activity. Remember to tell Han Mei.
L: That's a pleasant way to cheer up Elizabeth. Only in this way can you achieve your dream. We are sure to help you. GOD BLESS YOU！
W: I am so busy.I will call up all my roommates. See you.
(After dinner Wang Bo and Elizabeth met in the coffee shop. They said something about the Volunteer Day)
W: I brought you a milk cup.It was invented by myself. It is used for heating milk.The milk can't be burned.The inner part is made of special glass. The outer part is made of metal.
E:You are so creative.I like it very much.
W:I made it by accident.l used to get up late. I am used to having milk for breakfast. I came up with this good idea.You know many useful inventions were made by mistake or by accident According to an ancient Chinese legend, the emperor Shen Nong discovered the tea when he was boiling water over an open fire. Some leaves fell into the water and produced a pleasant smell.
E How did you know that?
W:It's a piece of cake.We learned in our English text book in middle school. It is believed that basketball was invented by a Canadian doctor. The telephone was invented in 1876.Cars were invented in 1885.The TV was invented in around 1927. Personal computers were invented in 1976.
未完待续
#我们一起学英语#
tuck *** in/up
帮某人盖好被子
tuck oneself in/up
某人给自己盖好被子
*** be tucked in/up
某人盖好了被子
Her mother tucks her daughter in,then she goes out the room to play cards with her friends.After about an hour,her mother comes into the room again,she find her daughter has slept into dream with happy smiling at night.
tuck /tʌk/
v.(为舒服或整齐) 把…塞入; 把…夹入
You're all tucked in. It's time for bed.
你们都盖好被子。现在该睡觉了。
You kids should go to bed. Wash your face and brush your teeth. I'll tuck you in.
你们该睡觉了，去洗脸刷牙，我会给你们盖好被子。
He tried to tuck his flapping shirt inside his trousers.
他试图把飘动的衬衫塞进他的裤子里。
the covers 床上盖具
slide under the covers 钻进被窝
get under the covers 盖好被子
sleep under the covers 盖被子睡觉
The covers on your bed are the things such as sheets and blankets that you have on top of you.
She put her glass down and slid under the covers.
她放下杯子，钻进了被子。
You're still recovering from surgery; you should get under the covers.
你手术还在恢复当中，你应该盖好被子。
时间在变，人也在变。
Time is changing and people are changing.
有些事，不管我们如何努力，回不去就是回不去了。
Some things, no matter how hard we try, just can't go back.
每个人都有一段悲伤，想隐藏，却欲盖弥彰。
Everyone has a period of sadness, want to hide, but shattered glass.
我们的所有文字，是源于我们思想的海水，也是来自我们情感的湖水。
All our words are from the seas of our thoughts and also come from the lakes of our emotions.
请仔细观察那些，真正打动我们内心的句子，
Please look carefully at the sentences that really touch our hearts,
相信我们很快都会收获到自己的答案。
and then I believe that we will all get our own answers soon.
让我们一起在冬天里，保持身体健健康康，心情快快乐乐！
Let's keep healthy and happy together in winter.
开心地跟着音乐唱歌和跳舞。
Sing happily and dance to the music.
多多微笑或者大笑。
Smile more or laugh more.
减少担心，焦虑，忧虑和抑郁等等各种不良情绪。
Reduce all the feelings of the worry, anxiety, sadness and depression and so on.
多晒太阳和日光浴。
Get plenty of sunshine.
保证高质量的睡眠。
Get more sleep of high quality.
少吃红肉和少量脂肪摄入。
Eat less red meat and less fat.
当我们开始爱自己，
When we begin to love ourselves,
我们会感到很幸福，
we will feel very happy
整个世界也都会变得很美好和温暖。
and the whole world will become so beautiful and very warm.
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A couple had been married for 10 years but they didn’t had any child. They stayed with each other and really hoped that they will have a child before their 11th anniversary. Their family and friends were pursuing them to get a porce but they didn’t wanted to get separated because of strong love between them.
Months passed.
One day while hu***and was returning home from work, he saw his wife walking down street with a man. They were looking very happy. After a week again hu***and saw his wife with same man again. Hu***and saw them many times roaming places with each other. Hugging each other.
One evening while hu***and was returning home, He saw that man dropped her off with a good bye kiss on her cheek. Hu***and got angry and sad.
After a hectic day at work, Hu***and was home. While he was holding a glass jug to get water, Phone rang. He received the call. As soon as he picked the call voice came form other side saying, “Hello dear, I will be coming to your home this evening to see you as i promise, I hope..”
Hu***and hung up call before hearing any further. Hu***and thought to himself, “It was male voice and i am sure it’s same person i have seen with my wife many times.” He thought he had lost his wife to another man and thinking that glass jug fell from his hand and shattered into pieces.
Listening to noise, his wife came running to him and asked, “Is everything okay??”
In anger he pushed his wife. She fell and wasn’t moving. Few seconds later hu***and realized that she fell on the broken jug pieces and a large piece has pierced her. Hu***and tried to feel her breath, heartbeat but there wasn’t any.
His wife was dead. He saw an envelope in her hand. He took it and read it. He was shocked by what was written in it.
It reads :
“My loving hu***and, words can’t express how i feel so… I had to write down this letter. I have been seeing a doctor for over a week and i wanted to be sure before giving you the big news
